You may not be having the right kind of sex

Hello~~~~~ 

This is my first post in Shirley's Secret Corner, today I will talk about the art of making love and how it is different from having sex and mating.

Many of my male ex-partner assume that they know how to make love just because they are fucking the girl and they manage to cum after humping us for half an hour. That is not making love that is having sex. Let me the little love guru educate you guys about different kind of sex and which kind you should be having.

Mating:

Mating is the most unsatisfactory form of sex for us lady. There is usually no foreplay, no blowjob needed. I have personally never experience this kind of sex but my more experienced female friends have told me about the horrors of mating sex. It usually happen when the couple are in their 30s who are both not longer physically attracted to each other and only have sex in order to have children. For those couple the purpose of sex is for the result of trying to get a children so the sex itself is boring and straightforward. There is no foreplay, unless you consider that few rough finger action on the pussy to just getting the lady to be mildly wet to be foreplay. The purpose of mating is for the male to ejaculate inside a female, the it is a result base activity. My female MILF friend sum it up best when she tells me, " if my husband can use a syringe to inject his sperm in me he won't even be bothered to fuck me" :(

Usually occur between: husband and wife.

Love factor: No love involved, the couple just want to get things done as quickly as possible.

Need to cum: Mandatory.

Orgasm for female: No need, won't happen most of the time.

Summary: Mating is not fun, it is just for baby making.

Having Sex:

Having sex is the in between of making love and mating. The objective of having sex is of course penetration sex itself, the very process of having sex usually start with either a male or female feeling extremely horny and so begin the process of finding like minded person to release their sexual pressure. Having sex can occur between any two individual who are both horny, there is no need for love to exist between the two of them. Unfortunately because love may not exist between the two partner so sex can end up with each of them trying to achieve their own goal without giving in to their partner. A guy might skip giving cunnilingus and the girl might avoid giving blowjob as result of both just wanting to quickly get to sexual penetration. 

Usually occur between: boyfriend and girlfriend, hook ups, friends with benefit

Love factor: the need for love is overridden by the need to release the pent up sexual pressure

Need to cum: yes of course!

Orgasm for female: can happen but no promise.

Summary: Having sex is great fun but love can some times be absent and the party involve can be selfish.

Making Love

Making love is the best kind of sex and also my personal favorite. I try my best to make every sex I have the making love kind. The most important element in making love is love. It is less about the physical action of sex and more about two person trying their best to make each other feel loved and in the process make each other feel extremely pleasured with their body. It may not be the kind of love you have for your husband or wife to be. Love can be between two mutually physically attracted platonic friend who wish to have sex together or between a pair of friends with benefit sincerely care for one another well being as a person. When love is present in sex there is no selfishness involved. You will want to give him the best blow job ever and he will want to lick you forever. The cum and orgasm will occur naturally or it may not even happen if one party is too engross in pleasing the other party to forget their own need. But the merit of making love is that many sessions of love making can happen in the same night so there are chance for multiple orgasm and cumming to take place even if one party did not achieve them during the first session.


Usually occur between: boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife, friends with benefit, anyone.

Love factor: love is in the air!

Need to cum: most of them time but not necessary.

Orgasm for female: yes of course!

Summary: Making love this is best form of sex as both the guy and girl will try their best to please each other resulting in potential for multiple cum and orgasm for both.

So people even if your motive for sex is about having a child you can still have making love kind of sex rather than the boring mating sex. Before you engage in sex remember how much you love each other, concentrate on pleasing the other party and you will be drowning in cum and orgasm :p